tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3559347780881464430.post8210066403010478753..comments2010-04-06T11:07:45.432-05:00Comments on A Lesbian Baptist Speaks...: Some of the things we talked aboutClosetedBaptistLesbianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08954208469030665521noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3559347780881464430.post-33301505146255049682009-06-17T23:41:16.671-05:002009-06-17T23:41:16.671-05:00Wow! I just left a comment on your most recent pos...Wow! I just left a comment on your most recent post, but I have to leave one here, too. Please ask your sister to read Carol's blog before she moves ahead with the relationship she is in. Carol's blog is <a href="http://myheartgoesout-carol.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">My Heart Goes Out</a>debhttp://dhconcerts.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3559347780881464430.post-67231641394108530732009-06-16T10:17:04.784-05:002009-06-16T10:17:04.784-05:00My first husband was like your sister. He loved me...My first husband was like your sister. He loved me dearly, didn't want to lose our friendship, and was told by our church that the way to "become straight" was to get married--so he married me, even though he was gay.<br /><br />It did not end well. <br /><br />We are still friends, but we both endured a great deal of pain (and I had to deal with the anger, as well) in the process. Your sister has not asked for my advice, of course, but if I were to give it, it would be this: Follow your inclinations and don't keep this guy hanging on. If you are strongly attracted to other women, chances are that you always will be, and you will never be able to give him the deep and abiding love he deserves to have. Nor will you ever get the deep and abiding love you deserve for yourself. You only get that when you are able to give yourself unreservedly--heart, soul, body, and mind.<br /><br />Having just married my soul mate, I can tell you that there is a qualitative difference in our relationship. There is something lovely and holy in it that was missing in my other relationships. There is love, joy, physical attraction, and spirituality. Had I known it was truly possible to find that in one person, I would not have made so many relationship mistakes.<br /><br />But it IS possible. And it IS worth waiting for. Don't settle. Keep looking for the one you cannot live without, and who cannot live without you. Keep looking until you find the one for whom you give thanks to God a thousand times a day.<br /><br />Pax,<br />DoxyWormwood's Doxyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10882756844690851674noreply@blogger.com